These three scenes provide a simple blueprint for your erotic encounter. Most people identified as female at birth spend the majority of their growing years taught to be demure, serving, soft, submissive, and gentle. So the idea of being in charge - and responsible for a scene - can be downright terrifying - even if you've been fantasizing about it every night. Reality is rarely the same as fantasy. Even for women who have been fantasizing about being the one who calls the shots, the nervousness of failure can keep them from taking that step for a long time - or being afraid of even trying. I know because I was that woman.
Dec update: New guide available now: How To Handle Disobedience A blog boundary marker by Die Starke Frau prompted me to write this response because I see in her writing a battle that a lot of new Dommes have: What do you do after your submissive disobeys? She said: Individual thing that definitely throws me bad balance is when the man is refusing to submit. When I acquire an idea of what to accomplish with him and how to fuck with his mind, and if after that, out of the blue, the be in charge of does not obey. Note: I am not talking about playful disobedience at this juncture. I am talking about a acute refusal. No joking around, no amusement.
After that how do you know this person will be a good fit designed for your fantasies? Asking sounds easy, right? Stranger from the Internet: Hey sexy, wow your boobs are big. I love my face sat on, accede to my mouth and nose be your seat. Me: My name is, Denial.