Relationships By PsychAlive The topic of true love has been debated for centuries. Lisa Firestoneco-author of Sex and Love in Intimate Relationshipsoften says that the best way to think of love is as a verb. Love is dynamic and requires action to thrive. As Dr. In order to connect with and sustain those loving feelings within us, we have to take actions that are loving. Otherwise, we may be living in fantasy. We are in charge of our half of the dynamic. Therefore, we can choose whether to engage in behaviors that are destructive to intimacy or whether to take actions that express feelings of love, compassion, affection, respect, and kindness. Robert and Lisa Firestone found to be vital to maintaining truly loving.